- Do singles have more sex than married couples?
- Is it ever all right to say "no" to sex?
- My wife just had a baby. Will I ever have sex again?
- Should men be circumcised?
- How can I jump-start my sex life?
- Is sex safe for people with heart disease?
- Is orgasm the whole point of sex?
- I have had 3 children and have problems with urinary incontinence during orgasm and at other times. Is this normal? What can I do about it?
- Why don't Kegel exercises work to stop urinary incontinence?
- Why do men and women differ on orgasm?
- 1. Do singles have more sex than married couples?
- No, singles have less sex than married couples. Recent medical
research has shown that 45% of married couples have sex a few times
a month, whereas, only 25% of singles do.
- 2. Is it ever all right to say "no" to sex?
- Rather than say "no" which is ego deflating and rejecting; it is better
to couch a transition to another moment in time in positive words. For example,
"Honey, I'm feeling a little (sick, tired, stressed, in pain, the truth) but I really
love you and want to make love to you as soon as I feel better. Can we make a date for _________?
- 3. My wife just had a baby. Will I ever have sex again?
- Yes, of course you will. Women who have just given birth are dealing with significant
stressors including lack of sleep, physical exhaustion, coping with the enormous adjustments
in her daily as well as nightly schedule, obligations and the enormous hormonal fluctuations
which directly cause emotional sensitivity and mood swings. Additionally, she probably feels
self conscious because of the way that her recent pregnancy and delivery have affected her looks.
If you are patient, loving and remind her that she is beautiful you will be rewarded with a lifetime
of the best sex ever.
- 4. Should men be circumcised?
- Yes. They should be circumcised shortly after they are born because they are less likely to both
contract and transmit STD's once they become sexually active. Studies have shown that uncircumcised
men are much more likely to carry HPV and yeast and transmit those infections to their partners.
- 5. How can I jump-start my sex life?
- First I would recommend that you make a special date specifically to make love.
Pick a time when you will both not be exhausted or distracted and set a side a minimum
of one hour for love making. (At least once a week) Second, build the tension. Send each
other notes, e-mails, voice mails, whisper in each other's ear to build the heat so you
can't wait to get at each other. Lastly, plan something new. Read and erotic story and
act out the parts. Entice him with lingerie. Buy a new toy. Do anything that is new and
exciting for you as a couple. (Read Passionate Sex)
- 6. Is sex safe for people with heart disease?
- Yes, a large British study of over 900 people followed for over 10 years showed that those
who made love once or twice a week died half as frequently as those who made love once or twice
a month or less. Check with your physician if sex is safe in your individual circumstance.
- 7. Is orgasm the whole point of sex?
- No, the intimate connection of mind, body and spirit with that of your partners is the
ultimate expression of cherishment. Cherishment is the rig\chest, highest and most gratifying
connection possible with another human being. Orgasm is simply the physical manifestation of ecstasy.
- 8. I have had 3 children and have problems with urinary incontinence during orgasm and at other times.
Is this normal? What can I do about it?
- The vaginal muscles of all women are damaged by the over stretching which occurs during
childbirth. These muscles do not return to their pre-delivery tone or strength. Therefore the
bladder may drop into the vagina causing (cystocele and urethrocele) a small fluid filled sac
(the bladder) to be knocked into during penile penetration thereby causing urinary incontinence
during sex. This situation can be alleviated by vaginal muscle exercise with GyneFlexTM.
- 9. Why don't Kegel exercises work to stop urinary incontinence?
- Kegel exercises do not allow you to contract the muscles against resistance therefore they
are not the most effective way of strengthening the pelvic floor muscles. Stronger pelvic floor
muscles life the uterus, vagina, bladder and rectum preventing urinary incontinence. Only by working
the pelvic floor muscles against resistance (like arm curls using dumbbells) can you obtain
significantly stronger muscles. (see GyneFlexTM)
- 10. Why do men and women differ on orgasm?
- There really isn't a difference between men and women's orgasms, though there certainly is for
ejaculation. Both men and women are capable of both great and multiple orgasms. The orgasm is a
lightening burst of electrical energy speeding from the brain through the spinal cord into every
nerve, muscle and cell in our bodies. The physiology is the same for both men and women and
should be equally perceived as ecstasy in both sexes.
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